Welcome back to I’m Right, You’re Wrong, where you help resolve an issue between me and a loved one.
This week’s dilemma requires a bit of a backstory.
I’m a simple but proud person (disclaimer: I am neither simple nor proud, but I heard that referring as simple but proud to myself will endear me to readers. So. Simple but proud, that’s me.)
Anyway. As a simple but proud person, it’s often difficult for me to ask people for things. Like, asking Kelcey to hand over children’s college fund to me so that I could get a new Mac Book — that was hard for me. Very hard. And I didn’t like having to ask Wendi to move into a new house that had a designated guest room for me, either. That was no picnic for me.
But I did it. Despite my discomfort. And my simplicity and pride.
And I’m fortunate to have friends that understand that about me.
Until I met Peajaye.
Because Peajaye is very selfish.
Oh, I’m sorry.
Peajaye is very self-centered-American.
And when I simple and proudly ask him for a tiny favor, he focuses on the inconvenience that it poses for him. As opposed to the Greater Good.
The Situation: Marinka and Peajaye have a website devoted to Nicki and all things cat, Wanted: Cat. One of the features on Wanted: Cat is to have new photographs of Marinka’s cat, Nicki. Who lives in New York with Marinka. Peajaye lives in California. Without Marinka.
Dilemma: Whose responsibility should it be to photograph Nicki for Wanted:Cat–Peajaye’s or Marinka’s?
Disagreers: Marinka and Peajaye
Position One: I am having extreme technical difficulties that include but are not limited to: finding the camera, figuring out how to charge the camera battery, figuring out what all the camera settings are, getting Nicki and the camera in the same room, making sure I’m there too, photographing Nicki, downloading or maybe uploading photo to the computer, emailing the photo to Peajaye.
On top of all these obstacles, it makes more sense for someone who doesn’t live with Nicki to photograph her because of what is commonly known as “the fresh eye”. Or it should be known as that. Therefore, Peajaye should photograph Nicki from now on.
Position Two: Have you ever had a friend say, “Hey, I’m having a little party for my kid and I was wondering if I could borrow your tupperware?” – and next thing you know you’re cooking every night for three months, making calls to magicians and local bands and party rentals, followed by a day full of screaming brats in your home? And when it’s over, your friend says, “Hey, we should go into the catering business together!” And you agree? Well, that’s sorta what happened with Marinka and me.
But then Marinka wanted to know what my participation would be in the related website. “Website?” I asked, all stooge-y like. “Why, of course, silly,” she giggled as she twirled her golden locks. “No one does a book these days without an accompanying website. Now I know I want Nicki to do a blog on it, and—” “Uh, but Nicki’s a cat,” I innocently interrupted. Little did I know that with that statement, I’d taken the bait. Marinka started to pull me in. “Well, of course, but I’d write the posts in her voice. It’ll be fun! You could do an occasional one, if you wanted to, of course. But I’m not sure how the site should look. Any ideas? Do you think we could have pictures on it?” “Uh, maybe your kids could take pictures of Nicki? That would be easy enough of them, right? They could use their cell phones. And we could do a Nick-Pic of the week, maybe? And maybe I could do some animations. And…”
And what I could not see on the other end of the telephone line was Marinka rubbing her hands together and throwing her head back, laughing silently but maniacally. She’d caught a live one. And it was I.
Well, it’s time for you to weigh in!
As usual, in an effort to reduce any inadvertent influence, I’m not going to reveal which one of us has which position. So please, tell us who you think has the stronger point. Who is right?
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