by Marinka on June 29, 2012

I’m furious because my sulk has been interrupted and now I have a confession to make.

I made a new friend recently. It happened like it does in the movies, when I least expected it, but also while my hair looked absolutely fantastic and I was basically ready for my closeup.

I wasn’t looking for friendship, I had written friendship off. I had plenty of friends, most of them on friendship probation, of course, but still, plenty of friends.

And then I met her. On the bleachers, watching baseball. Our sons are on the same tournament team, she made some comment, I laughed,  so I liked her.

But then yesterday, as she was calling her son, she dropped her voice and said “Luuuuke, I am your mother” all Darth-Vadery and shit and I just knew that I needed to have some kind of friendship commitment ceremony to lock her in.

“That is so funny,” I told her.

She told me that she was a huge Star Wars fan and wanted to name her son Luke Skywalker Schwartz, but that her husband wouldn’t let her.

“Why does he have to ruin everything?” I asked, suddenly enraged. I didn’t ask her to choose between me and him, though, because some people are touchy about stuff like that. At least until they get to know me better, at which time they welcome the chance to shed the ball and chain.

So we chatted some more and then she pointed to a spot in a park (we were playing on a new to us field, and by “we” I mean “our sons”) and said “I think there’s a bar there, and they probably have cocktails.”

I looked to where she was pointing and saw some promising signs. “What if they do have cocktails?” I asked.

“What, is the heat getting to you, Marinka?” she asked me, “If they have cocktails, we’re drinking them and getting looped.”

And so my sulk ended.

Because it’s really hard to sulk while you’re having a glass of Sauvignon Blanc with a new friend and watching your kid hit a home run.

Not impossible, but hard.


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Bonnie B. June 29, 2012 at 12:42 pm

Yay! for making a new friend. Double Yay! for making a new friend who makes Star Wars references AND drinks!!


June 29, 2012 at 1:28 pm

You see, this is why it’s so sad that Young Ladrinka’s not gay. ‘Cause if he were, then you and the mom could plan a Star Wars themed wedding together for him and his teammate.


Awesome Dude June 29, 2012 at 2:51 pm

An old Russian cartoon :

Big eyed character of unknown gender or specie tells to a small eyed character with the same parameter:

If you have no friends, I am ready to be your friend.


Mom of A and a June 29, 2012 at 3:25 pm

Wow! I would so love a Star Wars woman friend who drinks!!! Maybe I need to get my sons to play baseball!


deb June 29, 2012 at 3:53 pm

man. i would be so much more into my kids’ soccer tournaments if i could sit on a bar stool out of the sun & turf, drinking beer and watching the kids on the big screen! i’d probably have a lot more friends too. sounds like a good way to end a sulk!


anna see June 29, 2012 at 4:24 pm

wooohooo to ladrinka and his mom! sounds fabulous!


June 29, 2012 at 4:38 pm

The unexpected friends are the best kind. Especially when your hair looks perfect in the process.


Suzy Q June 29, 2012 at 6:17 pm

Win win!


Erin@MommyontheSpot June 29, 2012 at 8:59 pm

“Friendship commitment ceremony” – hilarious! It always takes me by surprise when I make a new friend at this stage in the game. Yay for you!


the mama bird diaries
June 29, 2012 at 10:48 pm

I love a new friend! Especially one that drinks!!


Loukia June 29, 2012 at 11:42 pm

Yay for new awesome friend! It really does not happen often, finding new friends you instantly click with, but when it happens, it’s AWESOME. That happened to me with one of my son’s best friends at school – wait, not my son’s friend, his MOM. 🙂


shrink on the couch June 30, 2012 at 2:01 am

Damn, to think of all the baseball games I missed all these years. And by baseball games I mean cocktails.


June 30, 2012 at 8:37 am

And once again, Awesome Dude wrote exactly what I was going to write.


June 30, 2012 at 8:44 am

Aren’t new friends the best? I made a new friend at work who also likes gossiping and drinking and it’s been quite great. We’re actually going on a cruise together in the fall which seems kind of sudden but is sort of what I love about it!


Alexandra June 30, 2012 at 10:58 am

I am so happy for you.

Like the way I think I would have felt had I known you when Husbandrinka decided he could no longer live without you.

I have two friends in my real life that I am so very grateful for.

So very grateful.

I can call them in a minute and they are there for me.

In this small town where I don’t fit in and can’t figure out the reason why people here really don’t want to get to know, these two have been my constant.

I am so very grateful for them.


Liz @ PeaceLoveGuac
July 1, 2012 at 10:44 am

This new friend sounds like a keeper!


Mary July 1, 2012 at 2:48 pm

The friendship test I always employ is if the person laughs at my jokes. It’s really the only way to go. Glad you found someone you can laugh with!


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