Please Don’t Make Me Look at Fat People

by Marinka on October 27, 2010

Yesterday the internet exploded. Maura Kelly wrote an article for Marie Claire, Should “Fatties” Get a Room (Even on TV?) and received over 900 comments. The idea was to assess the comfort level of watching the CBS sitcom Mike & Molly, about two people of size who met at Overeaters Anonymous.

I call bullshit on it.

I spent most of the evening yesterday thinking that Maura Kelly was in fact Maura Tierney and wondering why the ER alum was now writing inflammatory articles. And if you’re wondering why “fatties” is in quotes, by the way, it’s because Maura does not consider the principals to be fatties, she considers them to be morbidly obesies.

There are many moments of the article to savor (and it’s calorie-free!) but this is what stood out for me:

So anyway, yes, I think I’d be grossed out if I had to watch two characters with rolls and rolls of fat kissing each other … because I’d be grossed out if I had to watch them doing anything. To be brutally honest, even in real life, I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room — just like I’d find it distressing if I saw a very drunk person stumbling across a bar or a heroine (sic) addict slumping in a chair.

Now, don’t go getting the wrong impression: I have a few friends who could be called plump. I’m not some size-ist jerk.

Pre-first of all, I can’t believe Marie Claire misspelled heroin! First of all, the best way to make an asshole argument is to say that “a few of my friends are-.” I know, because some of my friends make asshole arguments. But then, and this is the part that I love the most–the idea that fat people walking across the room are aesthetically displeasing in a same way that a heroin addict slumping in a chair is; why yes, it’s exactly like that. And a fat person walking across the gym to get to the treadmill, is like a heroin addict shooting up. This is exactly why God invented analogies.

I can’t blame someone for finding something aesthetically pleasing or displeasing. We all have things that float our individual boats and for the most part, we don’t have to account for it. Personally, I’ve always felt that romantic plots ruin perfectly good sitcoms (shocking confession! I didn’t even enjoy Ross and Rachel kissing! or Sam and Diane!)

But say that it doesn’t do it for you, and be done with it. Chances are no one will try to force you to watch it. But what I find truly offensive is couching the distaste in terms of health. That you are so worried about these overweight, heavy, obese, morbidly obese people that you can’t bear to watch.

You don’t want to watch them because they’re unhealthy? Give me a fucking break. I didn’t catch a similar article about not being able to stand to watch old movies because everyone smoked. Or passing on Gossip Girl since those high heels give a mother of a hammertoe. You don’t want to watch them because you think that fat people are disgusting. Some of us would appreciate the honesty.

Update: I just looked at the comments, and someone posted what they claim to be the author’s address and cell phone number. Are people insane? I hate that someone would do that. I have no idea what, beyond harassment, they hope to achieve.

Here’s my disclaimer. 13 years ago, when I got married, I weighed 140 pounds. That is the lowest that I’d weighed as an adult. At the end of my second pregnancy, I was over 200 pounds. When I started South Beach two weeks ago, I was 179.5. Yes, I was that weight when I wrote this. Obviously, I struggle with weight. And I can’t even believe that I wrote the numbers down here. Don’t tell anyone, ok? oh, and I’m 6’100″, so take that into consideration. Thanks! Pass the heroin!
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Finn
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 9:48 am

I really have to question the wisdom of allowing a recovering anorexic to write a post on overweight people. Someone forgot to extract their head from their ass yesterday.

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Peajaye
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 9:58 am

Marinka, you’ve seen a picture of me, so you know I’m in pretty good shape – I’ve weighed about 130 lbs for the past 30 years, but there I was at a meeting at work, and I’m sitting in the back row with 5 other people, all well over 200 pounds, and I actually thought to myself, “Oh, all us fatties are sitting in the back row.”

The fact is that everyone has body issues – weight, height, hair, penis, boobs – it’s all screwy. I think that after sitting next to a heavy woman at work for a couple of years, I’ve really come to identify with the discrimination fat people face (now that we really can’t openly hate the gays, blacks, jews, or muslims).

The hard lesson that Ms. Kelly will now be forced to learn is Rule #1 – Don’t fuck with the fatties. Publish her address and cell number? If it ends there, she’s lucky. Have you ever taken a stroll down to your IT department? Who do you think runs it?

And by the way, from the many sexual stories I’ve heard over the years, fat people are having the best sex out there. Maybe it’s the lack of inhibitions, but from the gay bears to that fat chick with that cute guy (and you can’t figure out why they’re together?) – yes, they’re really having sex – and probably a lot more than us skinnies.

I’m also confused about Ms. Kelly’s disdain for herioine (sic) addicts – doesn’t she like us skinnies either?

That woman is a mess and is probably just hungry.

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Marinka October 27, 2010 at 10:07 am

Your reply made me all teary. Because I swear, I was just thinking, “hmm… I usually get more comments. I wonder if it’s because people are disgusted about my weight.” But great news! I’m down to 172! (kilos, but still!)

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NYNancy
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 10:17 am

How is it that you can take on a topic that has been discussed already ad nauseum and still find something new and funny to say?
I can’t be funny about this one. This woman is either evil, insane, or both.
And yet she still doesn’t deserve actual harassment….only Twitter-harassment. And LOTS of it. Thanks for pointing that out. Perspective people!!!!
Sad how weight-ism is still the only ism that’s deemed acceptable to admit. Except maybe veganism. Which is cool. But, like, totally different. You know?
Plus, you can’t eat bacon. Which is the food of the Gods. But I digress.
Kudos to you for including your actual weight. I can’t even admit my weight to myself. And I think it’s important (no joke) that you’ve done it- and put it out there for everyone to see. We are all human. We are all NOT Jennifer Anniston.
Yay you.

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Brian October 27, 2010 at 10:23 am

I can’t believe she compared the obese to heroin users. I mean, at least heroin users are actively doing something about their weight.

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Abbey October 27, 2010 at 9:17 pm

This is awesome.

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Wendi
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 10:24 am

I wanted to leave something poignant, but I’m still laughing over PJs “Don’t fuck with the fatties.”

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the grumbles
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 10:26 am

at a year postpartum i am the skinniest i have ever been in my adult life. yes, i one of those freaks everyone hates who gets skinny after the baby! you’d think i would be psyched, right? but i still see myself as that same sort-of-average lumpy girl. i still have the same issues with my body and the same crazy distorted view of myself with the same total insecurity.

expecting someone with a history of anorexia and bulimia to write an even vaguely unbiased post about obese people is just ridiculous. we all bring our own issues to the table. her article was deplorable but depressingly not shocking to me. what was more shocking was that an editor assigned her the topic and allowed it to run.

every time i see a beautiful woman and i wish i was her, i just try to remind myself that she probably HATES the way she looks too. we’re all so messed up.

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Andrea
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 10:27 am

Well said. I saw this yesterday and it pi$$ed me off. I don’t watch the show, but I love that actress who plays Molly. She’s hilarious. I don’t watch because I can’t fit another show on my DVR these days. Must be because my fat a$$ is sitting around watching TV and eating bon-bons. You know, typical mom-style. Thanks for writing this. I had so much to say that I just couldn’t put it into enlightening or entertaining words. I rely on the Twitter-universe and/or the Blogo-sphere to do it for me, so again, thanks! 🙂

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By Word of Mouth
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 10:29 am

Yesterday we arrived back from DC and two girls, well, young women around thirty’ish were waiting on a bench in the airport. They were waiting for those roll around bike things since they were so overweight. ( I don’t say this lightly and quite frankly I don’t care who they kiss or roll around doing any kind of deed with) Walking appeared to not be an option for them. My 8 yr old, saw them motor on by and said to me, Wow, they should really be walking don’t you think? My initial concern was that one of them had heard her and may well drive over my foot or worse.
Yes, I admit I looked at them, yes, I couldn’t help it, and yes, I wondered how could one let that happen … sorry, but I did. (please don’t scream at me or leave hate notes on my blog)
This morning I stepped on the scales and discovered I had gained 7 lbs in our travels over the last few weeks, and now I feel like a whale.
Gaining weight sucks, I want to go back to my twenties where all I ate miraculously disappeared – must have been all that great sex I was having back then 😉

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Awesome dude October 27, 2010 at 10:53 am

LOL…once you introduce aestheticism into your life most of it will be ruined.

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Kimberly October 27, 2010 at 10:57 am

Craig Ferguson said it best, if you are a guy who likes skinny chicks, you might be gay.

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Ofthesea October 27, 2010 at 1:49 pm

…and this is why I have such bad HOTS for Craigy!

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Kimberly October 27, 2010 at 11:00 am

ps: I’m glad you posted your numbers because I was starting to think you were one of those “I’ve gained 20 lbs as in I went from 110 to 130” kind of girls and it was starting to piss me off. Now I feel like you are a real human I can relate to.

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SubWife October 27, 2010 at 9:45 pm

I know! I was thinking the same thing! you are my person hero for posting your actual weight. i can’t bring myself to do it! Marinka, you totally rock!!!

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Whitney
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 11:01 am

I have no words. I am shocked.

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christy October 27, 2010 at 11:06 am

I can’t believe Marie Claire published that piece! I just clicked over and saw her update/retraction. Surprised they didn’t just delete the original post. And seriously – having an anorexic write about fat people?! WTF?

You are so incredibly brave for publishing your own numbers. I weighed a certain weight at my wedding – 7 years ago. I weighed a lot more than you did after your second child. And I’m 5’4. I’ve been working out like a demon and eating healthfully – now I’m only 9 pounds above my wedding weight…but goal is lose 20 more than that – I’ll be at my ideal size then. This losing weight thing SUCKS ASS. But I do feel healthier, and have more energy.

Anyway, just wanted to say that I loved this post and wish Marie Claire would hire YOU to be a columnist for them!!!

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MarathonMom October 27, 2010 at 11:27 am

meh. Glad I was busier than smack yesterday to even hear about this. Last week it was gay hate, this week fat hate. Please.

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Deb Rox
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 11:37 am

Listen, I have tried like a fiend to score heroin to manage my weight so that I can slump in a chair but still get thin, since the last time I wasn’t fat it was cocaine/80s-related. Both are so delicious, it’s hard to choose! But unless you can get it duty free, it’s really hard to come by, and I really wish people would keep that in mind before they judge Obeisies.

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Miss Britt
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 11:37 am

“You don’t want to watch them because they’re unhealthy? Give me a fucking break.”

Exactly. Just say you think fat is gross and at least you’d be an honest asshole.

Some of my best friends really are honest assholes.

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Pauline
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 11:38 am

I once weighed over 200 lbs. Not many people know that. Brava for posting your numbers – I don’t think I would be so brave. I hate that I still have issues with body image well into my thirties. And I hated that article.

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Lisa Rae @ smacksy October 27, 2010 at 11:38 am

I adore you and your stats and your funniness and your smarts and the gorgeous package it is all wrapped up in.

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Lisa Rae @ smacksy October 27, 2010 at 11:39 am

Oh yeah, and that MC “columnist” is a turd.

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PsychMamma October 27, 2010 at 11:42 am

I’m 100% with you on Maura’s “concern for health.” I don’t see her writing about such a concern for all the unhealthily skinny models Marie Claire endlessly promotes & idealizes. As @kadield said wonderfully at Twitter yesterday: “to disguise hatred & bullying [not to mention linkbaiting] with “concern” is disgusting and outrageous.”

It is incredibly unhealthy to be significantly under your ideal weight, too. It strains the heart, shuts down reproductive capabilities, and your body eventually shuts down organs and starts (essentially) eating itself by consuming muscle fiber. And yet, Marie Claire, & Ms. Maura seem to have no problem with flaunting these unhealthy images to the world as if this is what we should all be striving for. Ugh. It seriously pisses me off. So….

Dear Maura Kelly & Marie Claire: Don’t pretend concern w/”health” when you continuously promote unhealthily thin ideals, & don’t even get me started on the heaps of chemical cosmetics you promote in every issue. Disguising hatred & intolerance with “concern” is disingenuous and disgusting.

P.S. (for Marinka) I also weighed 140 when I got married 7 years ago, and it was also my lowest adult weight. Now, after pregnancy, motherhood, and *cough* middle age took over, I weigh 180 and am working hard to lose 20 more pounds (I’ve lost 13 already). What blows my mind is that I often feel “disgusting” and “fat” in my size 16 jeans, EVEN THOUGH I’M ONLY 5 POUNDS AWAY FROM BEING IN MY “IDEAL WEIGHT” BRACKET!!! What kind of messed up world do we live in, where we bombard people with messages of that they are not good enough and emphasize physical appearance as key?? Ugh.

Why can’t we just realize THERE IS BEAUTY INSIDE EVERYONE and stop with the judging?? Size doesn’t matter. Skin color doesn’t matter. Sexual orientation doesn’t matter. Religious preference doesn’t matter. Political persuasion doesn’t matter. We’re all people. With our own struggles. With our own stories.

Now, let’s all join hands and sing We Are the World.

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annie October 27, 2010 at 11:42 am

It’s all been discussed so can I add a different view? I have a friend who is completely gorgeous. She’s 6 feet tall and a size 4. In the years I’ve hung out with her I’ve noticed that other women are kind of mean to her. They’re always looking her up and down and frowning.

She’s actually shy about trying to make new friends and I don’t really blame her. Do I have a point? Not really, but I thought I’d say that people suck pretty universally.

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Josefina October 27, 2010 at 11:47 am

Hee hee, the Internet *did* explode. Rightfully so. That article was really something.

Anyway, bravo for posting your weight. I don’t even know what mine is. I don’t even know where the scale got kicked to. I’m probably at least 160. Just figured I wouldn’t leave you hanging out there as the only one who posted a number.

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Karen October 27, 2010 at 11:48 am

I found the article to be in poor taste and honestly it was just unnecessary. I regret have a Marie Claire subscription now.

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Keyona
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 11:53 am

Most of us have struggled with weight before. Especially us mothers. Fuck it right? That doesn’t define us. Hello, I’m Keyona and I weigh in at 155 and I’m 5’4. Obese? No. But who cares anyway? Surely nit my husband. Can’t keep his hands off me for nothing!

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christy October 27, 2010 at 12:02 pm

PS – I was already writing about my weighty issues today, and you inspired me to come clean on my clothing size…I thank you for liberating me! They’re just numbers after all – they do NOT define me!!!

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Becky (Princess Mikkimoto)
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 12:09 pm

I love you so. That is all.

Here’s to making people sick by walking across the room. SUCH POWER I HAVE!

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Steph October 27, 2010 at 12:17 pm

Bravo! Well put, Markina. After reading the column I thought it has to be a twisted attempt to be funny/stupid. It is hard to believe it was reviewed by someone else and allowed to be published. I’m glad you condemned the posting of the writer’s personal information. I’m also in awe of your ability to be so honest. Thanks for writing.

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Steph October 27, 2010 at 12:18 pm

oops. misspelled Marinka

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Ann's Rants
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 12:24 pm

Love this. Especially the part about analogies.

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Vanita
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 12:27 pm

Bravo for posting your numbers! I recently posted mine but only because I joined the Plus Size Bloggers challenge. It’s a requirement. But it’s a motivator for me to keep working at it.

As for Mike & Molly and all other tv shows, i watch for the storyline and keep watching because I love the main characters. Isn’t that why we watch? No matter what the actors/actresses look like, if they’re not portraying the character right, then I don’t watch. Maura needs to learn to use the remote and switch the channel if she doesn’t like what she sees.

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Phoenix Rising
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October 27, 2010 at 12:40 pm

I love analogies.

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CSY October 27, 2010 at 12:48 pm

To be honest, when HASN’T a woman had issues with her body? I weighed 145 pounds in 1996 (I was 23 and had no kids), I looked GOOD!!! Now, I’m a 38 year old mother of 3. I had 3 babies in 4 years and after my last (9 yrs ag0), weighed in at 255 lbs. (2001). That being said, I KNOW I’ll NEVER look as good at 145lbs again, so why even try? I weigh 180-185 right now and I’ll be happy when the last 20 falls off. My weight has gone back and forth since having kids, but even at my heaviest my husband didn’t see the rolls of fat that I did. He still doesn’t! The Marie Claire article was AWFUL! Fatties out number skinnies and we’re more MEAN!!! I agree – don’t mess with the fatties!

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Lady Jennie October 27, 2010 at 1:50 pm

When I saw your tweet I had to stop by (would have made it eventually anyway but I do need to get all the people I follow on one platform because I’m a bit all over the place after switching to wp).

So! Yes, I plastered all my thin wedding pics over my new blog because it seemed to fit ‘a lady in france’ but then at my husband’s strong urging I posted my current pic in the post Brownie Moelleux (in case you want a peek). He just wants me to keep it real and not live in my size 8 wedding dreams.

And my weight history sounds exactly like yours. Ah, how refreshing it is to be open.

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Loukia October 27, 2010 at 2:02 pm

Give me a fucking break, exactly. The article was disgusting. The comparisons were especially offensive. I’d glad she’s feeling the wrath today. What a bitch. And we all have body issues. I certainly do. I’m always dieting, obsessing over what I ate, how many more days I can go without carbs, etc. I weigh myself every morning, and depending on the number on the scale, it can make a happy day, or not. I’m a size 10. And I know that’s the best I’ll be.
Great post Marinka.

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Loukia October 27, 2010 at 2:04 pm

Should have said: I’m glad, not I’d glad.

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Issa
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 2:21 pm

She doesn’t like watching fatties walk across the room? Sigh. Some people are just so awesome. *eye roll*

I’m almost glad I’ve been offline for a week. I haven’t read the article and I don’t intend too, yet I’ve heard she was talking about that show Mike & Molly. Which I actually really find funny and entertaining and I adore the actors in it. My real issue with it? Is that they make too many fat jokes. Just be them, just be funny them and a new relationship. What’s wrong with that? But no, for it to be a network show, it has to include jokes about their weight and how they are going to diet and blah, blah, blah. That part of it? Will eventually stop me from watching it.

You? Are beautiful and amazing and I adore you. That is all.

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Zee October 27, 2010 at 2:43 pm

I mentioned my weight and weight loss in a comment to an earlier post. My highest weight was 333. I’m now 210 and still losing. Maura’s comments hit me. Hard. But I can’t allow any self-righteous, judgmental bully with a laptop to affect me. When I was at my highest weight I was so ashamed at what I had done to myself that I saw no possible way of changing my path. My truth is that I was not, and am not worthless or disgusting. I’m not perfect, but I’m pretty damn awesome. And I was at 333 too.

So Maura can write her articles discounting others. I hope it makes her feel better, because it looks to me like she’s overcompensating for something that must make her pretty miserable. Meanwhile, my life rocks.

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Alexandria
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 2:50 pm

I just read the article and she’s an idiot. Plain & simple. The sad thing is I don’t even think she realized what she was doing & what she was saying.

I’m actually more offended at Marie Claire, because where was her editor to be like. “Whoa. This can not be printed!”

And like you my favorite line was “I find it aesthetically displeasing to watch a very, very fat person simply walk across a room”

Maura is an idiot. And so is the person who posted her contact info. Idiot!

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Always Home and Uncool
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 3:05 pm

First, I’ve been watching a lot of :NewsRadio” reruns of late and I made the same Maura Tierney mistake.

Second, it’s Marie “Increasingly Irrelevant Magazine Turned Publicity Whore” Claire. This is the same crap they pulled with their “Trophy Husband” article over the summer. I know because I took them to task about it. Mostly for failing to interview this here trophy husband , but I digress.

Finally, we’ve meet. You are AT LEAST 6′ 106″.

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GrandeMocha
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 3:16 pm

I made the Maura Tierney mistake too.

Maura Kelly is an asshole.

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K-Line October 27, 2010 at 3:17 pm

M: You rock!

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Helena
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 3:42 pm

Well said Marinka. Now I’m off to buy me some women…

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Erin I'm Gonna Kill Him
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 5:03 pm

I guess Maura bombed the analogy section of the SATs. So did I – that’s why ill suggest an analogous statement that I hate watching anyone cross a room since I’m on my feet all day and wish the whole world would just sit down already. Its unhealthy because of vericose veins.

This goes back to a lack of empathy, which I think is the crux of all the bullying and many other problems. Realize most fat people hate to cross a room as it is, so wipe your judgey smirk off your face and try a welcoming smile.

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kiki October 27, 2010 at 5:07 pm

stellar post and congrats on your weight loss! you’ve lost more in 2 weeks than i have in 6 months. i am finally back to my pre-baby weight (it only took me 6 years). it’s funny that you referenced maura tierney cuz my mind went straight to her when i read maura kelly. i’m disgusted that Marie-Claire would even publish this. wonder if the actress from Mike & Molly will make a statement. She was in Gilmore Girls, right?

p.s.- a while back, we were sitting at chick-fil-a enjoying a family dinner and an obese woman and her child walked in. my son said to us, “Whoa, she’s a fatty!” i was horrified. shocked. and grateful that no one else heard him. where did my son learn that term? from his father. he sometimes refers to himself as “fatty” when referencing his belly weight. i don’t consider my husband obese. he is all muscle except for his belly, but the BMI scale does consider him obese.

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Maura
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 5:45 pm

Man, do I love you. (And not in an “I want to buy you way,” of course.) You were already a hero in my eyes, but now you’re a heroine who doesn’t do heroin.

But seriously, thank you for this. You are a wonder to me.

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Tonya
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 5:51 pm

That sick article and this awesome post have taught me a few things:
1) Maura Tierney really needs to get out there and speak her mind and stop hiding behind other Mauras.
2) Maura Kelly is beyond an idiot because she can’t even maintain her convictions as evidenced by her recent retraction of the article and her public apology. She blames her skinny figure and history of anorexia for making her write such horrible things
3) Apparently, with a history of anorexia you can totally be a bitch and a hater and no one can blame you. Also, being on smack is preferable to being heavy. See also: Kate Moss.

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Jennifer
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 6:32 pm

I haven’t read her article and I’m not sure I will. But any kind of judgment about weight or, really, anything just gets deep under my skin. We all struggle. Every last one of us.

Just so ya know: You’re at least 107 inches taller than me and I weigh 20 pounds more. If I get to the 150 lb mark where I was before I got pregnant the first time, I could live with that. But when I make that effort, it will be for health reasons and the genetic hell-in-a-handbasket that I’ve inherited. (Heart disease. Diabetes.) Avoiding either one of those will be the goal and it for damn sure won’t be so that some chick won’t be disgusted by my walking across a room.

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Yuliya
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 7:01 pm

There’s a tear jerker of an apology up on the site today…as in this was such an obvious publicity stunt it make me want to cry.

(Sorry my comment is not witty or insightful)

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Laura October 27, 2010 at 8:05 pm

Bravo to you, Marinka, for calling bullshit bullshit. And for your bravery in posting your true weight. That takes courage. Not like the whimpering, cowardice of that author, who hides behind her false truths.

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Glamamom
Twitter:
October 27, 2010 at 10:44 pm

I read the post (and way too many of the comments) earlier today. I was in tears.

Marie Claire’s editor-in-chief issued a statement defending Kelly and quoting her as being “excited” by all the feedback. They’re basking in it.

I put this in the same category as I do Texas Mom or whatever her name is. Zero tolerance.

This is not an issue of weight or health. It’s just another bigot using an opinion platform to spread unproductive negativity in exchange for 15 minutes of fame.

Despicable.

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Jonathan October 28, 2010 at 1:52 am

I am exhausted from the brouhaha but wanted to say I loved your igo review!

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Domestic Goddess (in training) October 28, 2010 at 8:23 am

The annoying bit is not even that the author is a butthole, but that she got exactly what she wanted. She is the same as the Arkansas School Board asshat who said that he wants all gays to commit suicide. The Moron Club is highly successful at writing what my English Literature degree allows me to techincally call “stupid shit” and get all talked about on TV and the netisphere. I LOVE your take on it, but hope that the next time an idiot spreads their hatred of anyone… that we just let them disappear into the ether. That would be a fate worse than weight for this chick.

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lonek8
Twitter:
October 28, 2010 at 11:35 am

Thank you for thinking it was Maura Tierney too, so I’m not all alone in my crazy!

Secondly I totally agree with your assessment, which means I have basically nothing to add – except that I’d be interested to now what Ashley Falcon (Marie Claire’s extremely overweight fashion contributor who writes about plus size fashion) has to think about working for a magazine that would publish such an article. personally, if I were her I’d quit.

but mostly, I’m glad to know that Maura Tierney didn’t write this article – because I like her!

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Heather October 28, 2010 at 11:41 am

I assumed the girl wrote that piece during a glucose crash (they truly turn some people into assholes) which coincided with PMS. Bless her heart, it was a double punch.

Or possibly she’s a sick bitch.

I think I’ll go gain 5 pounds just to spite her!

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annie October 28, 2010 at 12:14 pm

When are you coming back? I miss your blog!

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Lisa October 29, 2010 at 12:09 pm

I loved your response to her. It’s sad that this is still an issue in 2010- but I loved that everyone got the feathers all ruffled about it. I hope Maura thinks again before she says such hurtful things.

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deborah l quinn
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October 29, 2010 at 8:49 pm

Ah bodies. The thoughts about weight/”beauty”/am-I-okay … it’s inescapable, even if you don’t think you’re “weight obsessed.” Like lots of commentators, I thought “wow, that was brave” about you publishing your weight. And then – WHA?? It’s just weight! It’s just a number! Why should we all think that’s brave–I mean, it was, of course b/c of the world we live in–but brave is…a double mastectomy and still wearing a plunging neckline; or rushing into a burning building to save your favorite handbag… Wouldn’t it be nice if we lived in a world where publishing one’s weight was NOT considered brave? So just for the record, I’m 5’6″ on a good day and weigh about 140. There. Not brave, just statistics. When weight becomes just numbers, won’t we all be happier?
Thank you for that post, Marinka.

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