What I Want

by Marinka on November 24, 2009

Last week, I attended Alpha Mom‘s inaugural Huddle.  If you are not familiar with Alpha Mom, get thee to the website and feast on its glory.  And I’m sorry to tell you that Isabel, who is the Alpha and also the Mom behind it, is so lovely and gracious that it really is a bit hard to take.  I keep wanting to tell her that people who look like her don’t have to be nice to the hoi polloi, but I have a feeling that she wouldn’t listen.  It’s like all my Mean Girls training is for naught.

Anyway, the idea behind the Huddle goodness is that it’s lunch and a presentation, all in an hour. It was wonderful. I got to see some blogging friends and even met a blog icon.  And then Isabel introduced Swiss Miss, Tina Roth Eisenberg.  If you ever have a chance to hear Tina talk or see one of her presentations, definitely do it. She spoke about design, a topic that I have almost no interest is, but she talked about it in a way that was moving and inspirational.

Yes, Tina inspired me.  She rejuvenated me.  And she made me more excited about blogging.  One of Tina’s beliefs is that beauty is everywhere, and having heard her talk, I am convinced that not only is everything beautiful, but everything is interesting. (Full disclosure:  I had a full lunch plate on my lap, so while others were taking notes, I was busy eating.  So, Tina may have actually said that everything is interesting, instead of everything is beautiful. Either that, or nothing is.  Really, who knows?  But lunch was delicious.)

Tina talked about blogging and her job, and the melding of the two.  Tina talked about the emails that she gets.  Someone wrote to her and said “Your blog makes me happy.”  Isn’t that nice?  I found that super moving and then I thought about how I never get those emails and how it’s totally your fault.  Yes, your fault.

Now I am enraged.

Because you read my blog, and you suck the marrow from my blog bones and you give me absolutely nothing in return. Sure, maybe a comment here, a tweet there.  You may stumble me, or if I’m really lucky, you’ll subscribe to my feed.  (By the way, is that me, or does it sound like we’re sharing a feed bag?  Because if so, sucks to be you, I eat like a horse.)  Do you ever email me with “your blog makes me happy?”  No, you do not.

Don’t bother, it’s too late now.  Because if you “your blog makes me happy” me now, I’ll know it was a pity email.

But maybe it’s my fault.  Maybe if I’d let you know what I wanted in return sooner, you’d be able to provide it and there wouldn’t be all this resentment and bad feelings and hatred.

Maybe it’s not too late.

I want this.  Please. I promise to keep the blog posts coming.

Thank you.  Your gift makes me happy.

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Kimberly/Mom in the City November 24, 2009 at 12:47 am

How about, “Your blog makes me laugh”? Laughter leads to happiness, right? Right?!
.-= Kimberly/Mom in the City´s last blog ..The Princess And The Frog: A New Twist On An Old Story =-.


Marinka November 24, 2009 at 7:36 am

Why are there quotes around that?!


Kimberly/Mom in the City November 24, 2009 at 1:02 pm

The quotes are because I have told you that many times before. Actually, I think that I’ve said YOU make me laugh many times before. BUT when I say, “You”, I mean everything that you write and say. So, that includes your blog. Now, I’M confused…but laughing 🙂
.-= Kimberly/Mom in the City´s last blog ..Holiday Giveaway: Tales 4 Tomorrow =-.


Kathy November 24, 2009 at 2:24 am

I’m with Kimberly, your Blog makes me laugh and it’s not easy to do these days living in Germany with all the grumpy people! That house is so amazing but do you really want to walk to the fourth floor to do laundry? Is there an elevator cause if not that’s a deal breaker!


Marinka November 24, 2009 at 7:36 am

That’s an excellent point. I’m so low maintenance that I didn’t even think about the elevator!


JK November 24, 2009 at 5:56 am

I have just recently discovered your blog and have been gobbling it up like a juicy novel. I love it! Your wit is razor-sharp and I love the fact that you post so regularly. Thanks!


vodkamom November 24, 2009 at 6:44 am

Marinka- you KNOW how we feel. Your blog make us LAUGH, your blog makes us wish we could say *@&# on our own blogs, but MOST of all..

your blog makes me happy.


Momo Fali
November 24, 2009 at 7:34 am

Your blog makes me want to stick hot needles in my eyes, but sometimes I laugh after my eyes bleed.


November 24, 2009 at 7:39 am

I am a bleary-eyed addict of your blog. Soon they will find me in a gutter, emaciated and muttering through my dry, cracked lips: “Marinka… i need Marinka…”
.-= Catherine´s last blog ..Reader Response =-.


Marinka November 24, 2009 at 7:57 am

Emaciated? Now you’re just bragging!


Heather, Queen of Shake Shake November 24, 2009 at 8:01 am

You know, Marinka, I think it’s all about Karma. We should go around and email a bunch of people telling them their blog makes us happy. And that alcohol does too, but they don’t need to know that. Then we can sit back and await the flooding of our inboxes with I LOVE YOUR BLOG emails.
.-= Heather, Queen of Shake Shake´s last blog ..A Dictionary Ate Me Alive: My Road to Being Published =-.


November 24, 2009 at 8:35 am

Your blog…completes me.

Also, the design workshop sounds really, really cool.
.-= Vicki´s last blog ..What’s the deal with the Russian New Year Tree? =-.


Claire November 24, 2009 at 8:42 am

I love your blog so much that my husband is jealous that I always check yours before his. Whenever I’m laughing out loud at the computer he rolls his eyes and says I must be reading my FAVORITE blog again–in a v. snotty voice. And I take it all, b/c your blog makes me so very happy.
And I don’t even have a blog to push with my comment!


Maelstrom November 24, 2009 at 9:00 am

Your blog is fine, being happy is over-rated.


November 24, 2009 at 9:36 am

You don’t really want that slummy place. The “fully landscaped” garden out back is just a giant flagstone patio with some bushes around the perimeter and one cheap wooden bench to sit on. Talk about a rip off! Also, do you know why the entrance to the kitchen is under the front stoop, and the kitchen opens onto the garden? Because back in the 1800s when the place was built, only servants worked in the basement kitchen, and the tradesmen who delivered meat and veg needed a separate entrance so as not to offend the family with their working-class hands. Do you really want to live in a house where you feel like a servant every time you go into the kitchen?
.-= MommyTime´s last blog ..How do you learn that stuff, anyway? =-.


November 24, 2009 at 9:49 am

If I ever “squee”ed I would “squee” when I see a post by you pop up on my reader, but I don’t “squee” as a matter of principle so I don’t.

But I would. If I did.
.-= TeacherMommy´s last blog ..The Sad Saga of the Cake That Was Not To Be =-.


Maureen@IslandRoar November 24, 2009 at 10:30 am

Sure, I’ve told you that you’re clever and funny, but I guess that’s not enough. It’s never enough; it’s always about you! “Marinka this, Marinka that…”
What about me? What about all of your thousands of followers? Huh, did you ever think of that?!?
Not only do I heart you, but I have actually shared some things you’ve said with my ex husband and 15 year old daughter. Who didn’t give a crap, but that’s not the point. You get the point, right?
.-= Maureen@IslandRoar´s last blog ..Spin Cycle: Being Thankful =-.


Maddnessofme November 24, 2009 at 10:40 am

If I could, I would have sex with your blog. I love it that much.


Marinka November 24, 2009 at 11:04 am

I’m thinking that I should now edit the main post to something totally different so that all these comments seem more unsolicited.

Thanks, everyone.

P.S. I still want the townhouse.


Reiven November 24, 2009 at 11:35 am


Your blog makes me very happy, I just didn’t want to tell you because I was sure you would think I was a sycophant. But I will tell you a true story: I was online at the library and reading your blog– it was so funny and I was trying not to laugh out loud so I was making choking noises, tears were coming out of my eyes and my chest was heaving–I’m sure everyone thought I was having fit of some kind. And all because of you. Needless to say I ‘m not allowed in the library any more. But I still love your blog.


TMCPhoto November 24, 2009 at 12:26 pm

I always mean to comment that your blog makes me happy but then I think you are so awesome that you must know already without my telling you. I can see that I was mistaken.

Your blog makes me happy, my day is not complete unless I’ve had my dose of Marinka. After reading any post I instantly feel more cosmopolitan, witty and better about my life.
.-= TMCPhoto´s last blog ..San Antonio Street =-.


always home and uncool
November 24, 2009 at 12:33 pm

I’d be happy give you cab fare b/c I know you are too good for the subway.
.-= always home and uncool´s last blog ..NaBloPoMo in Reverse (or, Life Is What Happens When You’re Not Blogging) =-.


Beth November 24, 2009 at 1:10 pm

You crack me up daily!


November 24, 2009 at 1:16 pm

Dam it Marinka. I got you this for Christmas: http://www.sothebyshomes.com/hamptons/sales/0035179

But since you don’t want it, I’ll just have to keep it.
.-= Issa´s last blog ..You over use the words, I love you =-.


Joie November 24, 2009 at 2:06 pm

Dear Marinka…

I am a better person because of you. You have inspired me to do things to the fullest extent possible. I never knew what I was made of until I started reading your beautiful blog. Not only do you make me happy, you make me complete. Without you, I don’t feel I can succeed in life.

I cannot find the words to describe my true appreciation for you and all you do. Your heart is made of platinum…because I don’t wear gold.

You are a blessed human and I am in awe.

Did that work? Or a little overkill? But hey, if you believe all of that, I seriously need to become a writer!!


You are awesome!


magpie November 24, 2009 at 2:25 pm

Your blog is the be-all and the end-all of my day. I bow down before your awesomeness.

(I tried to go to that huddle; but the subway wouldn’t cooperate so I gave up and went shopping.)


magpie November 24, 2009 at 2:26 pm

PS I want that bathroom, with the tub next to the fireplace.
.-= magpie´s last blog ..When Smart Technology Backfires =-.


Andrea's Sweet Life
November 24, 2009 at 4:11 pm

I’m very sorry, Marinka, but that place is no longer on the market. I bought it for someone who emailed me that my blog makes them happy. Awww.
.-= Andrea’s Sweet Life´s last blog ..Community =-.


anymommy November 24, 2009 at 5:02 pm

I want to move into that with you. I’ll leave my husband and flock of small children in rural Washington. Deal?

Now that would make me happy. (Your blog makes me jealous of your sense of humor and comedic timing.)
.-= anymommy´s last blog ..Story Time =-.


Rachel November 24, 2009 at 5:02 pm

Well, I read a lot of blogs. Some make me mad, some make me sad, but yours always makes me happy.

Always too late,


abdpbt November 25, 2009 at 12:50 am

Your blog makes me slightly less cranky. How about that?
.-= abdpbt´s last blog ..34 Rejected Acronyms For Oprah Winfrey’s New Cable TV Network =-.


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